Making and meeting your New Year’s Resolutions Hello my friends! The new year is here and many of us are as busy and active as ever. This is the time of year where is it customary to make new years resolutions with the intention of achieving each and every last one of them. Resolutions (and, i.e. goal setting) are especially important for you if you are wanting to improve your relationships and experiences with women and learn how to be the ultimate seducer. You may have heard this before, but I cannot reiterate enough the value and importance of goal setting. You see, the most successful men of yesterday and today all got there because they had a dream, a vision, a goal. It may have been something as deliberate and major as, "I will not settle until I find and seduce my ideal woman," to some small milestones such as, "I want to learn how to kiss in a club" or "I want to get second and third dates with women I meet". I can tell you that I personally use goal setting extensively and the first thing I find out from my private coaching clients are what they think their goals with women are. Proper goal setting is important because to do it right means that some thought about the overall scale of the 'game' is needed and that is a good thing. I personally find that the more I learn about women and relationships and the more levels of seduction I get past, the more I discover there is to learn about it. At some point, the pursuit of seduction (and not just seduction, but any worthy pursuit) becomes spiritual, but that's a topic for another email. Here are some guidelines I use when I set goals, which I hope you can use: Start your major goal setting at significant times during the year. The start of the year is an obvious time, but I also revisit and reassess my goals quarterly. At these times I break apart everything that I have been doing and set new step goals to reach my overall goal. You need to have an overall goal for each pursuit in your life, be it business, health, or seduction. And this goal can be as grand as you want, it should be just out of your reach, yet something that you believe is possible. And you must believe in the goal, that it can be a reality for you. In the end, you may not reach your goal, but because you set the bar so high, you would have taken yourself further than you would have gone otherwise. Having an overall goal which you can feel positive about to strive for is important to your success. An example would be to never settle down with a woman whom you know you will not be happy with, to keep looking for your ideal woman until you find and start a relationship with her. Another example could be to develop your skills so that you can attract and get the most beautiful 9's and 10's which have always eluded you in the past. Whatever your overall goal is, make it a lofty goal. How you will get your overall goal is through step goals. Think of step goals as progressions, mini-steps that you take that will lead you towards being able to achieve your overall goal. These step goals are goals that you feel that you can achieve in a short or medium amount of time, and that you know will enable you to get closer to your overall goal by teaching you something, or by making you good at something, or by allowing you to past through a certain bench mark. An example of this would be to learn how to touch women when you first meet them in a way that they like it, so that you can move into kissing. You can do it by palm reading, by massaging them, by touching them for emphasis, or what I like to do is that I like to just take their hand. Another example would be to learn how to initiate a conversation with a new girl, hold her attention for more than three minutes, attract her to you, and get her phone number (and/or a kiss!) and meet her for a second date. Step goals are goals that you set for yourself that you make it a point to achieve. Now, when you set goals, it is very important to set time constraints for yourself, particularly for step goals. This will motivate you to do them and not give up, and it will feel really good when you do cross one off your list. You need a specific time frame set for yourself for all your goals, and you need to keep track of how you are doing with your goals (I make a weekly list of things I need to do to help me monitor). Don't make the goal too long, like ten years, so that you can be lazy about it, and don't make them so short, like two weeks, that is it almost impossible to achieve. Be realistic when setting your specific time constraints and stick to them. After coaching guys for over two years now, I can tell you that I've had a few students start from zero to pulling women left and right in the span of just over one month. So it is possible to do this (ahem, with good coaching). For the majority of guys however, it takes them over 6 months, usually longer even, for them to truly get it. This is not an easy skill to learn and the game is emotionally tough to play. If you don't have goals, it's too easy to get lost and give up. Beware of the dangers that prevent you from reaching your goals. It's ok to not achieve them in the time you want, as long as you don't give up. The danger is in giving up and being lazy about it. Procrastination is your enemy. We all do it, but really shouldn't. Another danger is in your attitude towards yourself and to your desire and conviction to get parts of your life handled. A negative attitude and non-belief is the death of your success – they make achieving your goals so much harder. So if you want to have multiple girlfriends, but you are still hurt and bitter inside and you take it out on other people…perhaps you should think about setting a goal to help yourself first before jumping too far ahead of yourself. It's tough to sometimes step outside of yourself and see how you are doing, that is why there is value to getting attraction coaching or lifestyle coaching to help you meet your goals. Best, Ronald /(Docandwriter) Seductionboard.com means natural game. If you already know you are interested in signing up for a course because you have heard about us, then please go to our complete workshop schedule. |